I don't visit Reddit much, but I drop in to the popular thread once in a while for mild diversion.
Every now and again, though, there is a thread about personal experiences which is worth reading. I remember one good one about (I think) readers' worst early work experiences, which featured many Americans talking about working in fast food outlets. The stories they could tell...
Recently, this one caught my attention for the number of comments and the remarkable warning stories told:
What's the biggest red flag you overlooked because your SO was so hot?
I haven't read it all, of course, but there seem to be a very high number of cases of people regretting having ignored warnings from the family members of the Significant Other not to hook up/date/live with/marry their daughter/son/sister/brother.
Also many stories of their boyfriend/girlfriend initially saying "you know, I'm terrible, you shouldn't get involved with me" and it proving true.
Which reminds me, a girl friend of my own once said the same, inspired by that popular Radiohead song: if a guy (or women) ever ironically/sardonically says they're a creep, they are just to be believed. Don't accept any alternative explanation - they are just trying to play up to some version of "I'm a bad boy, but you might like that about me" or to pander to the (not uncommon) idea that a good relationship can change them.
And I've always thought that sounded like good advice, as the Reddit thread seems to indicate.
Might even add it to my slowly increasing "Rules for Life".
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