Look, deliberate rudeness to transgender people is nothing to endorse or encourage, and I had a post recently criticising conservative "panic" about transgender men going into women's toilets. (Change rooms for pre-op men - well, that's a different issue.)
But this guide to "not offending" transgender people has a few points which shows just how, um, arbitrary some of the political correctness on this issue is.
"The best way to ask [a trans person what pronoun they use] is to sayWell, if you're asking a 50 year old father of 5 who has just decided he needs to live as a woman, he has made a "choice" - to do it now.
something like, 'I'd really like to be respectful and clarify which
pronouns you use'.
"Don't say 'preferred' pronoun because then it almost sounds like a choice."
"It's important to remember that a trans person realising or coming toUh huh. The "trans community" are, I assume, big fans of transhumanism. Their ideal world of the future will involve transferring their mind (downloaded onto a USB) into whatever gender body suits them for any period. They can just keep two robot bodies in the cupboard. Or, what about the future as Arthur C Clarke saw it in one of his novels, with male and females looking similar "downstairs", as genetic modification will relocate neatly inside all the male bits which are currently too exposed for safety?
terms with their gender identity can happen at any age, at any time, in
any place," Fink says.
But I digress.
A common expression used in stories about trans and gender diverse people is that they were born in the wrong body.
But this is a stereotype that should be avoided, says Goldner, because not all trans people relate to that experience.
"It's not really accurate and puts an emphasis on the body when gender is
about a sense of innate self, and about a soul," Goldner says. "Unless
someone says they feel OK with [that expression], don't use it."
Grrr. This is really testing the limits of "why should I even be polite to people who are so precious about everyone agreeing that they are the ones who set the limits as to what you can say to them."
This is starting to get a bit ridiculous, if you ask me.